So I'm sitting here thinking about Valentines Day. It's just around the corner and this just so happens to be the first Valentine's Day that I actually have a man in my life. Men really have it easy...flowers, romantic dinner, candy...it's not so hard for them to accomplish. Females, on the other hand, have a bit of a mystery to solve.
*Flowers aren't typically so good for a man's man (which is what I've got). For some reason I just can't see him swooning over a vase full of roses being sent to his place of employement. It might even be a little embarassing.
*Candy might be a little better except for the fact that there aren't a whole lot of men out there who enjoy sweets (so I've found). Most of them would love a good steak! Maybe I should send him a steak?
*Romantic Dinner? Well, I could certainly do that! However, for some reason, it still doesn't seem like a sufficient means of affection for a man on Valentines Day.
What do you think? Men...this is where I need your input. What would YOU want your significant other to give you for Valentine's Day and why?
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
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Here are a few answers I got via other means of communication...
1. Steak...
2. Pay his cell phone bill
3. You're chaste... So a really great goodnight kiss.
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Golf balls, glove, ect. Better yet a gift certificate for 18 and a cart
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A man simply wants an honest show of affection.
On our first Valentine's Day, my wife got me the memoirs of U.S. Grant. Very nice. I loved it.
But what I REALLY loved, what REALLY mattered, was the way she acted like she REALLY wanted to be with me, to hold my hand, to sit close to me, to laugh at my jokes, to make conversation, etc.
So, instead of you troubling yourself, here is my advice:
1) A man's man (the type you claim to be dating) will WANT to take his woman out to dinner. He might even feel a bit awkward if she did it for him. After all, he has "I am the provider" values.
2) A loving, simpl card that expresses your thoughts about him is all you need...along with a few Hershey's Kisses--"let these do until I can kiss you myself" sort of thing. Or you might even laminate a picture of you (or the both of you), with hearts and roses, and give it to him as a bookmarker, or such.
3) The rest of the day is spent simply enjoying his company and making him glad he has such a gal. Of course, if you are the kissing type, then a really nice kiss is a great way to show appreciation.
4) Instead of trying to do something for him on Valentine's Day (which might almost seem competitive in trying to match whatever he gives you), AT THE END OF THE DATE, set a special date in which you want to, say, cook a nice meal for him and spend the evening cuddled up watching TV. In fact, you might include a "Special Invitation" in your gift to him that is good for "A Candlelight Dinner for Just Two...Me and You."
I'm telling you, Karijay, that men are not into all the "bling" from a woman. Think of it this way...say you gave him a BRAND NEW CAR!...if that didn't come with your sincere affection, then, if he really cares for you, it wouldn't matter very much to him.
And if he didn't care for you...why would you want to give him a BRAND NEW CAR!?
So, the car is out--as is any sort of lofty gift.
If he really likes you, he wants YOU, and not the bling. And your show of affection is what makes him think he has had a successful date.
When you gasp at what he gives you, and hug him, and kiss him, etc., THAT demonstrates what he wants demonstrated--that you like him.
See me for all your man problems. I am the man.
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What are you talking about? We men are easy.
Does he like the outdoors. (Bass pro/Cabelas gift card)
Does he work with his hands ie...tools. (Lowes/Home Depot gift card)
Does he enjoy sports. (shirt/hat/something with his favorite team on it)
And before you say that a gift card seems thoughtless......It isn't. Men do not think like women at ALL!! I get a gift card and I'm elated. I'm sure to get something that I want and like. You can't go wrong.
I don't know your man very well, heck, I don't know him at all thanks to you and your six month rule thing, however, I also have a man's man and he loved the balloons I sent him at his work because he just love's for everyone to see that someone loves him. Course he would never admit that, but you know him too and he loved the attention. Good Luck, Mom.
Give him a hug and a kiss and tell him how much you respect and admire him. A man already knows you love him but also wants your admiration and respect. God bless, Kip
Kari,
I prefer no gifts on Valentine's Day. This is a day for the ladies. I want to make it special for my wife and I want her to be with me. It's that simple. Be available and grateful for the gift he gives. Show him affection and attention, at most a simple Valentine's Card with some personal thoughts or a picture in it.
Something simple - it's the little things that he likes - brownies, two tickets to a ballgame, a favorite team shirt - don't embarass him with the balloons or flowers and a gift card says that you either didn't have time to get anything or that you really don't know enough about him to figure out his likes-dislikes. Perhaps something he's interested in ... civil war, fishing, baseball. Just a thought.
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